Keynote Speaker & Trainer on Wellbeing, Communication, Positive Psychology and Literacy : Professional Public Speaking New Zealand
Life began in a small village in the United Kingdom.
When I was two years old we moved to the beautiful country of New Zealand and began to carve out a typical early migrant family existence.
Raymond (my father) was constantly being moved to new opportunities within the New Zealand Air Force, so we changed rented locations, houses and schools with ever increasing frequency.
We were always broke, but never poor, always lacking for material possessions, but never lacking for laughter, enthusiasm and fun.
My mother was an eternal optimist and believed that "If you can conceive it and believe it, then you can achieve it!" … only after she died did I discover where this statement came from.
Mary's passion for life, her generous spirit, her work ethic, her patience, her love and her belief in people had a huge influence over my life and eventually settled in my spirit to carry her dream forward.
Her last words, spoken to me on the night before she died, snapped a stronghold inside my inner being and are the primary reason this web site exists today.
An exceptional result in an early computer aptitude test suggested I had some analytical abilities, a high IQ and an unusual way of seeing the world (the story of my life!)
Being a computer geek has many benefits and well paid employment was easily obtained on a local and international basis.
Early attempts at Public Speaking (family celebrations) proved useless, embarrassing and downright annoying.
It seemed that everybody was equally afraid and equally inept at this seemingly simple art form.
The decision was finally made to find out how to overcome this fear and re gain control of my brain in front of people.
Hundreds of books later, formal training, numerous conferences, willing mentors, audio visual programs and many hours of practise have lead me to a place of quiet confidence and inner peace.
My heart still races before I go on stage, my mind re running all the things I feel lead to share, and then "its show time!"
I have been blessed with the opportunity to share my story with audiences around the planet, including New Zealand, Australia, Malaysia and the United Kingdom.
Companies have entrusted me with Sales Training for their team, Schools have opened their hearts to me, organisations have allowed me to Motivate, Inspire and Lead their people and I have had the privilege of being a small part in the Personal Development of thousands of people across the world through audio recordings of my talks.
How does all of this affect you?
If a computer geek from a low income family can become a successful international public speaker, then it is certain that you can!
Let me help you overcome this fear!
You will grow and change in the process, your one-on-one communication will improve and your self confidence will truly surprise you.
YOU can do it!
We all face fear and doubt in our life.
Many years ago I began to visualise my existence on this planet as an hourglass with a limited amount of sand running through the narrow opening.
One night I sat and wrote these words, I truly hope they inspire you to recognise the fragility of your life span and allow you to rise up and face your fears head on.
If you find the words offensive or challenging, I invite you to contact me or attend one of my seminars and we can exchange ideas and both learn fro one another.
This is just my view of life!
“Like sand through the hourglass, these are the days of our lives.
People go through life throwing away their pennies,
They can always find a way to replace their money.
People also got through life throwing away their seconds,
Time is something that can never be replenished.
You can be the richest man or woman on earth but you cannot purchase more time.
People do not believe seconds are important.
Seconds soon become minutes, which soon become hours, which soon become days, then weeks, then years, then life.
Everybody is born with a different amount of sand in their hourglass, the sand pours through at a steady stream every second, of every hour, of every day.
The sand pours through whether you are asleep, working, playing golf, spending time with people you do not like, with people you do like, with family, running, walking, eating or bathing.
People act as though they have an unlimited amount of sand in their hourglass,
they spend the majority of their life doing things they do not like, with people they do not want to be with, doing things they would rather not do.
The average person spends 90,000 hours away from their family at work, they spend 200,000 hours sleeping, 70,000 hours watching TV, 25,000 hours eating (excluding cooking and cleaning).
The average person only spends 20,000 hours on holiday, and even on holiday they are often in places they do not want to be, with people they do not want to be with.
Too many people are “Gunners”, Gunna do this, gunna do that!
And all the time … the sand is pouring smoothly through the hourglass.
Society is carefully programming all of us to act in accordance with Middle Class Poverty thinking.
In 1902 Henry Ford shocked Detroit by introducing the $5.00 wage for his employees.
Henry did not pay them to enhance their life, but to create the middle class, so they could afford his ’car for the people’.
The employment circle is designed to charge your time at retail and pay you at wholesale.
Most days we are rudely awakened by an electronic device that switches on the radio, whether we are
ready or not.
The snooze alarm allows us to have some early morning enjoyment as we repeatedly play with the alarm clock in order to enjoy exciting bursts of twelve minute sleep cycles.
As soon as you are awake the middle class programming begins through the audio media.
You are immediately bombarded with stories from the depths of despair and horror.
Stories unfold that you would not expose your young children to in a movie.
Inflation is inflating, the weather is getting worse, people are killing each other, your local team is losing, the government is collapsing, the world is heating up, the economy is cooling down, half the town is being made redundant and anything you want to buy is available at no deposit and no payments for the foreseeable future.
The media tells us to live for today because we deserve it, our immediate prospects are grim and the future is uncertain.
Why not take the fragment of time we have and enjoy ourselves, why not incur huge debt, our life insurance can pay for it when we are gone, we need to have that new car “now”, we must have a Home Theatre if we are to survive another day, lumping our Credit Card loans into a single loan bucket seems to make sense, it clears up our Credit Cards so we can fill them up again.
And still … the sand pours relentlessly through the hourglass.
Children are being brought up by other people’s mothers who work at child care institutes.
The mothers that dropped them off are doing exactly the same thing that the child care mum is doing, trying to make ends meet.
Once we are up and moving about we then inject further negative into our lives through the Newspaper, which is a hard copy of yesterday’s bad news.
A quick breakfast then it off to work to spend the daylight hours of our life doing things we do not like with people we do not like, for money that never seems to be enough to cover the increasing costs.
On the way we can listen to the same bad news that woke us up an hour ago and be reinforced with the idea that we need our new home theatre immediately.
After only 7200 seconds we are allowed to drink coffee or tea and relax for a whole 900 seconds before returning to our cage ,then it’s only another 7200 seconds and we are allowed to eat for 1800-3600 seconds, another 7200 seconds and then some more coffee, another 7200 seconds and we are allowed to go home, then its pick up the kids, buy the groceries, clean up, cook the dinner, take the kids to their activities, pick them up, eat dinner, clean up.
Then we can settle down for an intimate family evening staring mindlessly at the Television.
Now at last we can see the true horror of the bad news we heard first thing in the morning.
After 14,000-16,000 seconds we can empty our bladder and trudge off to bed excited at the prospect of playing the snooze alarm game again early the next morning.
Sometimes we can arrange it so the TV is also chatting to us in the bedroom, this is so we can avoid conversation with our spouse and ensure we go to sleep with our mind filled with the closing words of the bed news or the latest No Deposit advertisement.
And still the sand pours smoothly and quietly through the hourglass.
For one fleeting moment our footsteps are imprinted in the sands of time,
All too easily washed away by the pendulum of progress,
What did we believe in, what did we stand for, what did we fight for?
What permanent indentations will we leave for generations to follow, without them having to negotiate another new path thru the minefield of human emotion, spiritual turmoil and financial misunderstandings?
What would we do different if we knew the outcome?
Who would we reach out and touch without concerning ourselves about peer pressure?
How many minutes are left in your hourglass,
What are you doing to fulfill your purpose on this earth?
Are you so focused on yourself that you avoid your true destiny,
Are you so focused on living your live as others want you to live it, that you avoid true love,
If today was your last day, would you rejoice at the decisions you made or angry at your lack of resolve and persistence.”